You Are So Cheap!

Every time I hear or say that phrase, I think of the scene in Transformers where Sam drives off with Bumblebee and fills the backyard with clouds of black exhaust and his mom says “You are so cheap” in that’I cannot believe you’ voice. 🙂

I have always been kinda cheap, in the sense that I don’t like paying for expensive things. I love to shop and I love to spend money, I just don’t love things that cost lots of it at once. My mom has always been a major tightwad too, which is where I get it from. We grew up on garage sales and clearance clothes, which isn’t a bad thing by any means. My brother and I were very hard on our clothes growing up, so why spend all that money to have it be torn up in a couple weeks? (Honestly, that’s probably the attitude I’m going to take with my kids too, when I have some.) But as I’ve gotten older, I’ve begun to understand and appreciate the phrase “You get what you pay for” a lot more. 

I used to always shop at Kohl’s for pretty much everything. (LOVE Kohl’s!!!) But unfortunately, the quality of some of their clothes has started to go down. Their So… jeans used to be the only ones that I could find that would fit when I was younger (in the price range that my mom was willing to pay for, and Kohl’s $25 jeans were the very top of her clothes budget for me!), but as I got older they started to tear apart a lot faster (thanks a lot thunder thighs!) and I would have to be buying new jeans every 4-6 months! So I started to look a little further out of my usual price range and I got a pair of American Eagle jeans. I love them so much! And so far they’ve lasted me over a year and they’re still going strong! Then my husband took me into Express. Wow was that hard! I had a hard enough time convincing myself that I loved the American Eagle jeans enough to buy them, but spend $60 on a pair of jeans?! Ridiculous!!! So Ross told me to take some thing sin to the dressing room and just stay there, he would pick clothes for me. He did, and I loved them all! (I do have very expensive tastes, I just don’t like the price tag.) And now, I have a couple pairs of Express jeans, plus my pair of American Eagle jeans, and I haven’t bought jeans in over a year! 

So now that allergy season is in full swing, I am reminded if that same lesson. I am so cheap that I’ve been buying generic 24 hour allergy medicine and I’ve been MISERABLE!!! Yes, it’s nice to only pay $6 for a months worth of allergy pills but it’s not worth it to be so itchy that you can’t stand it and to feel so sick because you’re so congested. So I guess I have to go pay for the expensive allergy medicine tonight, but at least I’ll be able to enjoy my lake weekend!

Rules To Live By

I decided that I need a code to live by; one that I came up with myself so I know it’s something I can stick to. So this is what I came up with.

 

Rules To Live By

 

1 – Don’t piss off your neighbors. They’re the people that you have to live by, you really don’t want to start drama because that just makes for an uncomfortable living situation for everyone.

 

2 – Eat as clean as possible as often as possible. Yes, there will be times when you go out to eat and there aren’t any truly clean options, or you just really feel like eating a giant bacon cheeseburger with French fries. But don’t let that ruin your whole day or week. Eating clean will make you feel clean, which will make you look better, which will make you feel better emotionally. It’s a positive cause and effect waterfall.

 

3 – Workout in the morning. You will feel more energized (as long as you aren’t too sore!) and you’ll be more motivated to do things throughout the day because you’ve already accomplished something good (and usually hard to do) before you’ve even really started your day.

 

4 – Don’t miss a Monday workout! But if you do, it’s ok. There’s no reason to feel guilty or beat yourself up over it. There will be days when you’re just too tired from the weekend to get up, and that’s fine. But don’t skip because you don’t feel like it. You’ll thank yourself when you’re old and still strong.

 

5 – Exercise patience in everything you do. There are always underlying reasons as to why people lash out or act rude, and most of them have nothing to do with you. Despite how it makes you feel, be patient so you can positively impact someone else. Getting upset and yelling or throwing a fit will do nothing to help the situation, so why bother?

 

6 – Always make a conscious effort to treat the people closest to you, the best. Just because you had a rough day and got dumped on all day at work doesn’t mean that your hubby, dogs, kids, furniture, or house deserve to get dumped on or beat up when you come home. Make a special trip to the gym and go swim some hard laps. Crank the music up super loud in your car and take your time getting home. Take 5 minutes for yourself and scream into a pillow if you have to, just be nice to the people who matter to you.

 

7 – Take care of yourself. I know the tendency is to put your kids, or your hubby, or your job, or a million other things before yourself but you need to make time for you. If you are happy, everything around you will be better.

 

8 – Trust God. This is one of the hardest things to actually do, not just say you’re going to do. But it is so worth it. God has a plan and as long as you seek Him, He will see His plan to fruition. “For I know the plans I have for you’ declares the Lord. ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” (Jer.29:11)

 

9 – Don’t let people walk all over you. There is a point where you are being too nice and you’re letting yourself get taken advantage of. You don’t need to say yes to everything. Being patient and being godly does not mean that you let yourself be treated like a doormat. Even Jesus put His foot down occasionally (flipping tables at the temple). Use your brain, don’t just mindlessly follow what others say.

 

10 – Do what makes you happy. Who cares if your mom thinks that going on Survivor is stupid? Who cares if all the women on Ross’ side of the family think that being a stay at home mom isn’t good enough? Who cares if Ross doesn’t want to go to the lake every weekend? If you want to do it, then do it! This is your life, not theirs. People who truly care for you will support you. You need to make yourself happy, that is how you have a happy life.

Negative Nancies

One of my biggest pet peeves is people who are negative all the time. I cannot STAND it! Now yes, there are some times when I can be pretty negative, and I know that my parents are pretty negative sometimes too, but I try my best to stay positive. Ever since I started learning about the power of your words, I want to surround my life, my home, my office, my car, my dogs, my husband, my EVERYTHING with positivity! 

“It is not what goes into the mouth that defiles a person, but what comes out of the mouth, this defiles a person.” Matthew 15:11

So with all the focus that I have put on making my words and thoughts positive, I have become very aware of how negative other people can be. I am also trying to be less judgmental (and gossip less), so I try not to judge others for being negative, but it’s really hard to be around all the negativity. Even things that most people don’t consider negative, they just consider it stating their opinion or being realistic, is actually really negative! My boss has said “That’s scary!” multiple times today and it has really rubbed me the wrong way because by saying that something is scary, you’re saying that you’re scared of it or that you’re scared it won’t go right. Yes, I understand that we need the communion trays that we ordered by this Sunday or we might not have enough, but if they don’t come you already have a back-up plan so it will still be ok. Yes, I understand that you want the printer to be fixed correctly, but just because the tech came and worked on it and was gone before I got in this morning does not mean that he didn’t fix it correctly and it’s going to mess up again. You were using the machine before you even knew the tech had been here this morning and there were no problems! 

To me, stressing and being negative is just such a waste of time. You aren’t going to be able to solve the problem by being negative about it, in fact negative words actually HINDER what you’re wanting to do/get accomplished! I heard some good imagery about words from Pastor Creflo Dollar of World Changers Church in Atlanta. He said that your words are vessels that hold the rest of your life; do you want your storehouses to be full of cracked, broken and poorly made vessels of negativity that won’t be able to hold anything? Or do you want to fill your storehouses with well made, solid, and sturdy pots of positivity that will be able to hold every blessing that the Lord wants to give to you? Personally, I want to be able to joyfully receive and enjoy every blessing that the Lord has in store for me because I know He can bless me far beyond anything I could ever hope or dream.

“For I know the plans I have for you” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a future and a hope.”                   Jeremiah 29:11

“I came that you may HAVE AND ENJOY life, in ABUNDANCE, to the FULL, til it OVERFLOWS”             John 10:10

There is no reason to be negative. There is no reason to stress out over things you cannot control. There is no reason to spend your time wringing your hands and worrying. Just do the very best that you can do every day, in everything you do, and that is the best you can do. Trust that God will be looking over you and will see His will through.

Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to your life? Since you cannot do this very little thing, why do you worry about the rest? … But seek His kingdom, and these things will be given to you as well.                           Luke 12:25-26,31

Think before you speak. Do you want cracked and broken vessels in your house that will not be able to hold all of God’s blessings? Or do you want to build strong vessels to collect God’s blessings in so you can use His blessings to bless others? Positivity is so much happier than negativity!