Abuse

I really hate when TV shows and movies portray abused woken as little sniveling women who are so scared of everything and refuse to fight back even to protect their children. I know that abuse is a horrible and scary thing to go through, trust me I know, but there has to be a point when enough is enough. My ex almost killed me more than once and I fought back with everything that I had. He would get wasted and start being violent and I would go toe-to-toe with him so that I could make sure he wouldn’t hurt anybody else around, I couldn’t even imagine what I would do if we had had any children.
It just rubs me the wrong way every time I see that kind of scene on TV. I’ve been through it and it doesn’t look like that.

Adrian Peterson

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This picture absolutely breaks my heart. Some jackass killed this adorable little boy for some unimportant reason. Maybe this will wake some people up to the realities of abuse and how common it is. Abuse is a vicious cycle, kids see their fathers do it so they think its ok to do when they get into relationships and if they find a girl who puts up with it the cycle just continues.
I wish there was more awareness for the help of battered women. When I came home after spending 2 years in an abusive relationship, I didn’t even know that there was a shelter for battered women in my city. I felt so alone and so unsure that I did the right thing by leaving, it would have been so amazingly helpful to have some support around that understood what I was going through. So much of abuse is the mental aspect of it, the constant barrage of negativity and the reinforcement of what every girl fears way down deep inside. People don’t understand that its more than just getting away from the person who hits you; its having to get over the thoughts in your head that tell you that you aren’t good enough, that you will never find anybody else because you are so screwed up, and that you aren’t worth it. Its been 5 years and I’m now happily married to an amazing guy but I still have bad days. It took me years to stop having a knee jerk reaction of fear every time I saw the same model car that he had, I still get upset when people yell and I still have nightmares sometimes.
Recovering from abuse is a process that requires support. The cycle of abuse needs to be stopped.